Afer reading a bit from two books from the Public library and speaking to some professionals who counsel folks dealing with stalking, here is a list of ten things you should know in relationship to this issue. The main idea I learned is that the person being stalked has to change thier behavior, because the stalker never will. Unfair as it seems that is the bottom line, your life has to change to make change in the other persons life. Ouch. Now for the additonal list of ten:
1. You have a right to defend yourself
2. You have a right to be protected
3. Go to the school, go to the police, report the situation.
4. There must be accountability in every single case, Every single contact must be reported and it must documented that you reported.
5. If you are a student, have the school mediate with the other parents
6. Change your cell phone #, and no sleeping with the cell phone turned on.
7. You must be accompanied at all times. You should not be going anywhere by your self at any time. To do so is to invite problems and escalate the issue.
8. Need to be aware this could escalate into violence very quickly
9. Make sure your school documents meetings and situations.
10. Let your no be no. Only tell the person "no" one time, then have no contact of any kind, if you do respond after saying no they will think you have changed your mind, that there is a chance afer all, or that you are simply weak and can be controled.
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